- Written by Tom P. Blake Tom P. Blake
I had to smile when I received an email from Chuck, a widower, in Lancaster.
“I just can’t see myself using those dating websites, so what can you do to help me meet another love of my life before I run out of money or air?”
My reaction was: A widower with a sense of humor. A widower in his 70s who doesn’t want to use “those dating websites.” I bet we can help him.
Chuck had obviously read my most recent 50plus LIFE article (August 2017) about Steve, also a widower, who lives nearby in New York state.
I wrote back to Chuck, saying I needed more information about him.
“Over a year ago, I lost the love of my life to multiple myeloma cancer,” Chuck said. “We were married 54 years. We have three children and six grandchildren.
“I would like to meet a widow in her 60s or 70s who had a happy marriage and who wants to share good wine, fine food, great conversation, educational travel, and who likes to snuggle in the winter or travel to south Florida.”
I needed to clarify the comment “… who likes to snuggle in the winter.”
I wrote to Chuck: “Snuggle only in the winter?”
He assured me that snuggling was a year-around wish.
He added, “I’m in my 70s but look like I’m in my 60s.”
I said to him, “We’ll let the women decide how young you look. Tell me more about you.”
Chuck and his wife lived in Charlotte, North Carolina, and south Florida for 37 years before moving to a senior living community in Lancaster. He tries to work out every morning and reads “anything” nonfiction.
This gentleman has quite a resume.
“I like to see new places. [I] have visited or lived in all 50 states and over 100 countries,” Chuck said. “[I] am a volunteer for Road Scholar, the largest nonprofit travel company, and SCORE, where I mentor small-business owners. Also, I have been a Rotarian for over 50 years.
“Who can I use for matchmaking now?” he asked.
I smiled and said, “Well, networking through friends and acquaintances is the best way seniors can meet potential mates. Maybe our newspaper can increase your network.”
I learned a bit more about Chuck. He has an undergraduate degree from Notre Dame and an MBA from Washington University in St. Louis. He was an officer in the Army. He was a president of three companies.
Even though Chuck has traveled extensively, he says he’d like to see new places, and he doesn’t want to see those places traveling by himself.
If Chuck sounds like a man you’d enjoy meeting for a cup of coffee, email him at email@example.com.
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