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Clinical depression is part of life for 16 million adults in the United States, according to the National Institute for Mental Health.
People with depression often feel isolated and alone, so support is as much a part of treatment as therapy and medication.
Here’s what to say—and not to say—if someone you know suffers from depression:
Do:
- “I’m here for you.” Let people know you’re available to listen when they need to talk. Check in regularly to show that you care.
- “Let’s do something.” Help them get out of the house. Suggest activities like taking a walk, going to a movie, or getting some coffee.
- “I know this is difficult.” Recognize the other person’s struggle. Just knowing that someone understands the challenges of depression can help.
Don’t:
- “You just need _____.” Minimizing the person’s pain doesn’t help. Don’t offer a quick-fix solution to a long-term problem.
- “I get depressed, too.” Yes, everyone feels down from time to time, but clinical depression can feel like a never-ending battle. Don’t compare your occasional blue days to another person’s serious condition.
- “Other people have worse problems.” Comparing your friend’s problem to other people rarely helps—and may make the person feel worse. Show compassion for the situation and help as much as possible.